I failed. I was supposed to write for 30 days straight. It was not a marketing ploy; the goal was to become comfortable with being uncomfortable about publishing my writing. My coach made the suggestion as I hadn’t posted a blog post that wasn’t a quote in four years. And I failed. However, it doesn’t feel like I failed. First, I have published a bunch of writing in the last three weeks. Second, and most important, I’m writing this right now to either continue the original 30-day post challenge or to start a new challenge. In the past, I would not have come back this soon. It may have taken me a week, a month, or a decade to think about picking up where I left off. This is major progress.
How do you view failure? Do you view it as a stomp down or a stepping stone?
Without robustness all relationships become defined by their fragility, wither and begin to die. David Whyte
Reading David Whyte’s essay on Robustness in his book, Consolations, I began to think of the choice between robustness and fragility. Robustness is defined as, “the property of being strong and healthy in constitution.” On the other hand, fragility is described as, “the quality of being easily broken or damaged.” Every choice we make either moves us towards robustness or towards fragility. Of course, we are all going to have choices reflective of each; it will never be 100% robustness or 100% fragility. A great goal would be to increase the ratio of robustness to fragility decisions over time. When you have a trauma background, it can seem impossible to tip the scale towards robustness. However, with the help of a great therapist or coach, and patience, it can be done.